Why i went Natural.....

I am not sure why this is but, when a woman is going through something or there's something in her life that makes her uneasy or she let me say...."wants a change" the first we do is switch up our hair. It's kind of like some of us feel like our hair has some type of connection with our emotional state. But in a way ladies it does. Think about it-when your hair looks good you FEEL good, lol. Well at least i do. This brings me to the topic of my post. The reason why i went Natural.

I guess it took me a while to write this one because i had to really think about it-hard. Back in 2007 i had a friend that was going to this girl to get her hair done and ladies she was hooking it up! My buddys' hair was so nice. It was just a really nice wrap but it seemed to be growing nicely and because my friend knew how to maintain her hair it looked really healthy. I actually just went to the girl because i had one of the "emergency days" and i just needed someone to fix my hair. So she does her thing but i noticed that the particular relaxer she was using was a little stronger than i have used before AND another thing i had never used this one. Needless to say when i got home all i had to do was touch my hair and it would come out. Shedding like crazy, it looked lymph and lifeless. I was so upset. When i talked to the girl about it she kept trying to convince me that the hair was shedding like that because it was cold outside (now what the hell, lol). So I decided to just leave my hair alone for a while and get some braids so that i could just let the hair go ahead a break and do it's thing. I was getting braids and weaves like crazy yall, i didn't wear my hair until mid in 2008. By this time in my life i was really sad. I had a lot going on and i said to myself "MAN I NEED A CHANGE". I think this was about where i was making my decision to become natural. I was seeing someone at the time that made it seem like he was supportive but he wasn't. He used to rank on other women with their hair natural and he never really saw my hair outside of braids and weaves. Like i said before i am not sure why but it means a lot to us if our men like our hair. Needless to say me and him aren't together anymore but anyway, lol. Back to my story. Guys, i went through so much ridicule from friends and family for making this decision it was a mess! When you are doing what i was, which is called TRANSITIONING, you have to go through a few days of looking kind of bad because your hair isn't used to what you are doing you know. It's used to getting that relaxer so you are weaning it off of it.

It's crazy how you would think the people that mean the most to you would support you. Even now i get from some people "so how long our you gonna have your hair like that"? or "How do you do it"? "Why don't you flat iron it"? My thing is if i wanted straight hair then i would have kept my dang relaxer! It's cool though because some people really don't know and understand and they DO just have to ask the question. To you it may sound silly but you can't look at it that way. I had a very good friend of mine point that out to me. So.....in Jan of 2009 i cut all the relaxer off my hair and hadn't looked back since. I love it so much you guys. I mean i still sometimes deal with the "OLD ME" wanting to see how it looks straight and maybe one day i will but as for right now i am just fine with the way that God intended it to be.

At the end of this blog i will post three pics of the big chop, then six months, then how it is now. Thank you for reading and be blessed ladies.

Mesha

Come and talk to me.....

Hello world it's me again Mesha and i just have one question, where in the world did this whole social networking thing come from? Whatever happened to people actually going over each other's house? Ask yourself, when was the last time you sat down and wrote someone a letter. Where does thing end!!??? You can basically find out a whole person's life by simply clicking a few things on a page of there's you know. Now don't' get me wrong, i am not bashing these guys or anything i just want to know when and where this whole text me this e-mail me that phase is going to slow up a little. We even have E-cards now. C'mon people, where is personable side of people going when you can't pick up the phone and say i love you anymore, you have to text me now. I had someone even break up with me over a text once and he justified by saying "c'mon baby, this is the age of electronics". Really man?? Really? lol. I don't know why i am so upset about this right now but i just felt like releasing i guess. If anyone else feels what i am saying please chime in and let me know. Thanks again for listening and be blessed.

Mesha

**hair tips to follow

Give your hair a rest....

Hello everyone! Just wanted to share something with you really quick that i have going on with my hair. For the past three months i have been doing a lot of different styles to my hair. With that being said it was just time to give my hair a rest for a while--cornrows, cornrows, cornrows ladies, lol!!! *You have to leave your hair alone for a while because honestly, that is one of the ways you maintain length and promote growth. This style has always been one of my favorite even before i went natural. It is easy to work with and it is really sexy and fun. Another thing about being in the military is that we work out and are really active so this is an ideal style for me. I am sure some of you other sisters in the military know about the regulation and how it says how your hair can't be "faddish" so just be mindful of that also when getting your styles. *One other thing you want to remember with this ladies is even though your hair is put away, you still have to moisturize and tie your hair up at night so you can keep a fresh look. *I put Jojoba oil all around the edges of my head because it helps in the growth of that particular hair. The edges are sooo sensitive ladies please remember to do this. I will try to post a pic at the end of this post so that you guys can see hwo they look. Thanks for reading, i hope this helped. I will talk a little more about some protective styles i have done in the past, as well as post some more pics. Until then, be blessed.

*little tip:)
Mesha

So your natural and your in the military now what??

Hello everyone! This is so so new for me and i never thought that i would be doing anything like this but here goes. Just wanted to talk to a few of my natural sisters out there that are in some form of the military and want to know how and what to do with your hair. I feel that for the natural sisters there is so much versatility in regards to our hair! The main reason i wanted to start doing this blog is to help anyone out that struggled like me in the beggining of my journey and help her to know that she should keep on doing what you are you doing. Also i wanted to share a few tips that i have been using and a few styles that i do during the week that are within the Air Force's regulation. More to come so stay tuned!! Until then stay blessed!

Mesha